Through a Glass Darkly

Here's where Anti-SJWs and MRAs get it twisted:

They see themselves as the hero.

They've been raised on the myth of the white male protagonist. They don't see the world as Rebels VS. Empire. They see it as Han Solo VS. Empire where he gets the girl at the end. Women are rewards for being the hero. So when women (the Rebels) face off against Patriarchy (the Empire), men are forced to examine their privileges and place in the hierarchy. They see themselves as the hero so any sort of attack on their privilege is seen as villainy.

Men see themselves as Winston Smith, fighting against Big Brother and the Thought Police. So any suggestion of watching language or changing behavior is seen as Fascist.

WAR IS PEACE, FREEDOM IS SLAVERY, and IGNORANCE IS STRENGTH

On Culture

I've said it before, but I will say it again: White culture is soulless.

We've lost the ability to create genuine culture. We can only deconstruct. Only destroy.

So we search for meaning in appropriation of the "other." In the "exotic." Unable to create it for ourselves.

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"Spare the rod..."

If the worst thing that happens from giving everyone everything they want all the time is just that they're spoiled, then I'll take it. I'd prefer a world full of spoiled brats than a world where people can't survive. 

On Writing

There is no wrong way to write.

Say it with me now:

There is no wrong way to write. 

Some people just sit down and write what comes to them. Others plot each event and detail. Some create all the details right down to the last possible part of their world and then write what comes to them. All of these types of writing are valid. Do what works for you. Whatever it takes to get words on the page and get what you have to say (even if you don't know what it is yet) out there.

Once more:

There is no wrong way to write.